Randi Gunther, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist and marriage counselor practicing in Southern California. In her 40-year career, she has accumulated over 130,000 face-to-face hours with individuals, couples, and families.
You must consider whether you still love your partner enough to commit to healing. It won’t be enough if you don’t love them independent of what else you might lose.
Predictability in a relationship can become routine and result in feelings of boredom. These experiences can become their own saboteurs, pushing people to hunger for more.
Whether people talking behind someone's back are sharing a plot to deceive, or a well-intentioned plan to help, they are excluding the person whose life they are talking about.
Terrible disputes emerge when one partner perceives language in an unintended way. If you react to something said, consider whether trauma drives that response.
Terrible disputes emerge when one partner perceives language in an unintended way. If you react to something said, consider whether trauma drives that response.
How can you enter into a relationship in such a way that would make it more likely to last "forever"? Consider these questions, then ask yourself if you could.
How can you enter into a relationship in such a way that would make it more likely to last "forever"? Consider these questions, then ask yourself if you could.
If someone seems like a potential match for you, do you immediately go “all in,” and risk sadness and loss if it doesn’t turn out to be what you thought it would be?
If someone seems like a potential match for you, do you immediately go “all in,” and risk sadness and loss if it doesn’t turn out to be what you thought it would be?
At any moment, someone’s aggravating behavior or our own bad luck can set us off on an emotional spiral that threatens to derail our entire day. Here’s how we can face our triggers with less reactivity so that we can get on with our lives.