Liking the Child You Love

How to build a better relationship with your kids--even when they're driving you crazy.

Dr. Jeffrey Bernstein is a licensed psychologist specializing in child, adolescent, couples, and family therapy. See full bio

September 26, 2009

Four Quick Tips to Sidestep Power Struggles

Here are four easy-to-apply strategies for sidestepping power struggles. These tips come from the trenches-from parents of defiant children that I have worked with over the past twenty years. Don't be attached to immediate results, and focus on joining with your child rather than being his or her adversary. Read More

September 12, 2009

Avoid Those Dooming Conclusions

Christine is furious with her seven year old son George. He is getting in trouble in second grade with peers and Christine is at her wit's end. She's begun to have dooming fantasies about George being unable to get along with peers and make it in any school setting. "I can only imagine how much worse this will get down the road." Read More

August 24, 2009

Lying About Schoolwork

"That teacher is a jerk!" thirteen-year-old Alex yelled at his mother. He continued, "Mom, you always blame me for everything. Lots of people in my class did not turn those assignments in. Read More

July 24, 2009

Avoiding Combustible Consequences

Well meaning parents often deliver consequences in a heated, emotional manner. This is ineffective discipline. In my new book, Liking the Child You Love, I discuss what I call Collaborative Logical Consequences or CLC. Read More

July 1, 2009

Toxic thoughts from parents toward kids are a big problem

I appreciate the anonymous comment about "another label" as it referred to Parent Frustration Syndrome (PFS). While the response is provocative it is also erroneous. Read More

July 1, 2009

Raising Self-Esteem in Kids with Focusing Problems

Children with focusing concerns happen to share a big time problem with their parents--high levels of frustration. While most children hope to succeed in classes at school or when relating with peers, the academic and social realms are not easy for kids with focusing problems. Read More

May 8, 2009

Toxic Thoughts in Parenting

How many of you parents out there "lose it " out of the blue? I am a yeller in recovery. Read More

Books by Dr Jeffrey Bernstein

Liking the Child You Love: Build a Better Relationship with Your Kids--Even When They're Driving You Crazy

10 Days to a Less Defiant Child: The Breakthrough Program for Overcoming Your Child's Difficult Behavior

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